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romance  GETTING LOVE

I'm saying this again because you need to hear it twice.

You know what date-rape is. She's saying "no, wait, whoa.... I'm not ready for this yet!" His actions are essentially saying: "Excuse me, hon, but your feelings just aren't a big issue with me here. I know what I want, and I'll take it right now!"

Romantic-rape is not so very different. Here, usually in a kinder, gentler way, he or she is the one saying, "no, wait, whoa, I'm not ready for this yet." While your expressions, words, and actions are essentially saying: "Excuse me, honey, but your feelings just aren't a big issue with me here. I know what I want and will have it soon, or I'll be hurt and it'll be all your fault!" You see, the issue isn't commitmentphobia. The issue is respect.

The human mating ritual is not a game. It's a dance. and the slowest one will lead, or most often they'll leave the dance floor. Don't fight it. Find someone faster or you go slower. What does it mean to dance? It means to follow. They take a step forward - you take a step forward. They take a step back - you MUST take a step back. They go have fun with their friends... don't just snivel "ok" and whimper that you don't mind giving them their space. Take responsibility for your own happiness. You go have fun with your friends. Above all... find a way to enjoy the dance or YOU leave the dance floor.



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