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The poem was contributed by Komninos from Australia, hence the learnt.
You don't have to go find someone to love immediately... You just have to find someone interesting at first... anyone at all. I'll tell you a story that happened to me.
A dear, platonic friend and I were parting; we had met in a safe house. I was moving to another state because we feared my location was about to be discovered. I was trying to keep focused on enjoying him during our last few days together, as he became more and more depressed. Finally one day he said, "You know, you're as cold as ice! I've never seen anyone like you before!" For a moment I allowed myself to focus on the fact that we weren't going to be together every day anymore; all those great conversations and laughing till we needed to go to the bathroom... all of that was coming to an end.... and for a moment he could see my eyes water up.
"Of course I'll miss you, you ninny! I'm just trying to focus on the fun of us as long as I can, that's all. You think I'm not going to miss you? You think again. Missing someone is an alarm clock waking you up to tell you that you have a hole in your heart and you need to get busy filling it with someone or several someone's, however many it takes to fill the hole. The more fascinating the person missed... the closer you were... the more it hurts... then, that just means you must find more people... or some ONE person who is extraordinarily interesting to fill that vacuum." I paused.... and noticed his defenses were back down, that he was my Chuck again.
"Chuck, you are such an incredible person that I'll have to find someone REALLY unique. I can see it now in my mind already, you'll call me next month and I'll say... "Oh Chuck, I missed you so much, that I got busy and met a Gypsy Barber, a fascinating man missing one leg that was torn from his body while he was seeking Barber wisdom in the Kahlihari....."
I moved to Fort Smith, Arkansas. I was safe there and knew absolutely no one. I kept hitting the snooze button on my loneliness for about three days, then I cried my eyes out, then I hooked up the computer and within two hours I'd met Charlie, a wonderful writer very much like Larry McMurtry in his style. I remember he used to write about the frogs making love and singing about it on clear nights in Texas.
The thing to remember is that God, whatever you perceive God to be; loves you, and if God loves you, then he wants you to be happy. If he wants you to be happy, then it is your responsibility to take every reasonable healthy action to do just that. Right this minute, you're on the net. You never have to be lonely here. There are always interesting people to meet in a zillion different chat rooms.
Say a quick prayer for God to direct you to some interesting people, then focus 5% on your prayer and 95% on your faith: in 'your' God, yourself and your fellowman. Remember not to worry. Worry is the absolute proof of a lack of faith. It leaches all the power out of your prayer.
By the way, just in case it doesn't go without saying... you won't find answers to your loneliness in the sex rooms. Go to the humor rooms and the help rooms....
You're still here? What are you doing still here? ;> Bookmark the page and go chat. Or even better yet, leave your house and go find people to play with in the real world. Shocking! Yes! Go, have fun, hurry!! Gettouttaheyaaah!!!
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- Confucius (551-479 BC)
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