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Utilize AngerRefuse to suffer anger.
Hit the snooze button on it.
Get into your brain.
Don't suffer it, harbor it or control it.
Utilize it to benefit all concerned.
Find and implement
a win-win-win resolution.
ANGER UTILIZATION INSTRUCTIONS:
- Hit the snooze button on the anger alarm
- Ask, "what rule was broken to set off alarm?"
- Double check the rule, see if you should keep it, modify it or trash it. (some rules are out of date)
- Once that's decided, turn back to the situation and focus only on finding healthy win-win resolutions.
Note: I know these instructions look way too easy to work. Follow them three times anyway. After they've benefited you three times.... you'll almost always remember to use them.... cause it doesn't matter how easy they look. They work beautifully anyway. :)
I hear and I forget.
I see and I believe.
I do and I understand.
- Confucius (551-479 BC)
Question: are you good at winning arguments? I used to be! Then I worked for a brilliant boss who was constantly in conflict with everyone. His sweet, but not brilliant wife never conflicted with anyone. The boss had more enemies than friends. The wife could ask anyone for anything and they'd jump to do her bidding. Now you tell me... who was really the smart one? Every minute you spend in conflict can be better spent having fun with people you agree with; and coming up with win-win-win resolutions takes more intelligence than coming up with win-lose solutions.
All win-lose resolutions are bogus... cause you walk away saying "guess I showed them!" and they walk away saying "I'll get that #@$%!". And sometimes they're passive and they don't unless an opportunity to hurt you comes handy... and sometimes they lay awake thinking up ways to make your life a liven hell. Every minute spent mad is a minute better spent happy.
I'm not going to tell you all the terrible things I said to hurt people before I learned to utilize my anger. I will tell you that when I connected with all the pain I had contributed to our world with my hateful mouth - I KNEW I HAD TO CHANGE RIGHT THEN. All through this site you'll see the influence of Tony Robbins. One of the things he teaches is that it's beneficial to make sure your rules, values and beliefs are empowering you to be healthier, happier and more successful. I want to share with you my top value and my favorite rules that prevent me from using hatefulness to communicate. This has eliminated most fresh guilt... if you don't use ugly words you don't have to waste time feeling guilt and remorse. Besides when you're not making enemies you have more time to make friends and you keep them longer. I didn't make most of these up. I saw most of them in others and installed them in myself. Please feel free to try them on and keep the ones that benefit you the most.
Rules, Values and Beliefs that Reduce
Suffering Anger and/or Making Others Suffer It
"The mind, once stretched by an empowering idea,
can never fully shrink to its original dimensions."
- Oliver Wendell Holmes, paraphrased
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